Oprah Winfrey Finale show after 25 years.

Today I watched the Finale of Opray Winfrey show, the last after 25 years of broadcasting. I was so moved by her speech and all the things that she had learned over the years. I started taking notes of the things she wanted to teach others and I was overwhelmed with the insighnt I was given. I thought I should share it here with you. Here is the whole show on Vimeo( http://vimeo.com/24326358 ) and I have also taken some of the bits from her speech and post it here.

….that is what a calling is. It lights you up and it lets you know that you are exactly where you're supposed to be, doing exactly what you're supposed to be doing. And that is what I want for all of you and hope that you will take from this show. To live from the heart of yourself. You have to make a living; I understand that. But you also have to know what sparks the light in you so that you, in your own way, can illuminate the world."

" Nobody but you is responsible for your life. It doesn't matter what your mama did; it doesn't matter what your daddy didn't do. You are responsible for your life. ... You are responsible for the energy that you create for yourself, and you're responsible for the energy that you bring to others. One of the best examples of this was Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor who was on the show talking about the book My Stroke of Insight. She was a 37-year-old, Harvard-educated brain scientist who suffered a massive stroke in the left part of her brain. She couldn’t speak or remember her own mother, but when doctors and nurses walked into her room, she knew from the right brain, who was on her side. She could feel their energy. "

"Remember physics class? Did you pay attention to Newton's third law of motion? Let me tell you, that thing is real. It says for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. That is the abiding law that I live by, articulated to perfection by Miss Celie in The Color Purple when she finally gets the courage to leave her abusive husband, Mister. ... 'Everything you done to me already done to you.' It is the Golden Rule to the 10th power."

" The show has taught me there is a common thread that runs through all of our pain and all of our suffering, and that is unworthiness. Not feeling worthy enough to own the life you were created for. Even people who believe they deserve to be happy and have nice things often don't feel worthy once they have them. "

"There is a difference, you know, between thinking you deserve to be happy and knowing you are worthy of happiness. That never became clearer to me than this year in a moment I shared with Iyanla Vanzant, an expert who had been a regular on our show 12 years ago, and we were trying to develop a show for her, for her own show, and she left to do a show with somebody else and we hadn't spoken since. "

"What I got was we often block our own blessings because we don't feel inherently good enough or smart enough or pretty enough or worthy enough. From Jacqui Saburido—her face literally melted by the flames ignited from a car accident with a drunk driver—to Monica George—remember her? The mother with a young daughter and a brand new baby who lost both her arms and both legs—the show has taught me you're worthy because you are born and because you are here. Your being here, your being alive makes worthiness your birthright. You alone are enough."

"I've talked to nearly 30,000 people on this show, and all 30,000 had one thing in common: They all wanted validation. If I could reach through this television and sit on your sofa or sit on a stool in your kitchen right now, I would tell you that every single person you will ever meet shares that common desire. They want to know: 'Do you see me? Do you hear me? Does what I say mean anything to you? "

"I have felt the presence of God my whole life. Even when I didn't have a name for it, I could feel the voice bigger than myself speaking to me, and all of us have that same voice. Be still and know it. You can acknowledge it or not. You can worship it or not. You can praise it, you can ignore it or you can know it. Know it. It's always there speaking to you and waiting for you to hear it in every move, in every decision. I wait and I listen. I'm still—I wait and listen for the guidance that's greater than my meager mind. "

"The only time I've ever made mistakes is when I didn't listen. So what I know is, God is love and God is life, and your life is always speaking to you.

"A couple weeks ago, we brought back Carolyn Thomas whose face was literally shot off by her boyfriend. You ask Carolyn now: 'Were there whispers? Were there bricks before the disastrous bullet?' What Carolyn would say to you? 'Don't wait for your face to get shot off before you hear your own life speaking to you.'


"What I've gleaned from this show: Whispers are always messages, and if you don't hear the message, the message turns into a problem. And if you don't handle the problem, the problem turns into a crisis. And if you don't handle the crisis, disaster. Your life is speaking to you. What is it saying?"

Read more: http://www.oprah.com/oprahshow/The-Oprah-Winfrey-Show-Finale_1/8#ixzz1bEDWxAE6

Losing kilos, letting go and dropping dead weight.

Everyday gets easier and today I noticed the pain wasn’t there anymore. I think it’s because I actually decided to put all my focus on myself and not by the comfort of family or friends, no I decided to totally rely on me to get myself up again and this time, there won’t be any falling down ever again. I decided a week ago, that I should focus on the things that I want, work on the things that give me satisfaction and that will help me to go where I want to go. So I said no to some work shifts, so I can focus on my passion. That was the best decision I ever made. I spent the last 5 days, going to the gym, eating healthy, setting up this blog, working on my CV, writing articles for  Red Cross and reading books (instead of usual TV time) and I have some good news! I lost 2,5 kilos already! I’m thrilled to see myself shedding those kilos.

.…’dutty, dutty, love, Feel like letting go’….while listening to the song, “letting go”, by Sean Kingston I was thinking about this whole notion, letting go all together.(even if this song has no similarities at all).  I feel it’s metaphoric for everything that is starting to happen in my life, I’m losing the weight, I’m letting go of the guy and the pain with it, which was part of the dead weight. I’m also letting go of all the other junk in my life that prevented me from seeing my goal, all the other obstacles that lie ahead or that now should be behind me. It’s important that you spend time with yourself, I think in the end it is only you, yourself that can help yourself get up again because you know yourself better than anyone else.



Letters to Juliet

Two households, both alike in dignity,
    In fair Verona, where we lay our scene,
    From ancient grudge break to new mutiny,
    Where civil blood makes civil hands unclean.
    From forth the fatal loins of these two foes
    A pair of star-cross'd lovers take their life;
    

Prologue act 1

Romeo and Juliet,

William Shakespeare

  

Today I went to the library and I found a book named ‘letters to Juliet’ by Lise and Ceil Friedman (2010). The book is about the millions of letters written to Juliet of Verona. I was very fascinated by this phenomenon; I had never heard anything about it before. However the tradition of writing to Juliet dates back to the early twentieth century with letters coming in from all over the world.

 I couldn’t understand why people would actually send out letters to a person that doesn’t exist? Juliet from Romeo and Juliet, was only a fictional figure written by William Shakespeare. It is almost like writing to Santa Claus, but what is it that makes people write to her for their help?

I found in the book, that there are places in Verona, such as the Balcony of Juliet and also a tomb but I still didn’t find enough information to whether she was a legend, a myth or a real person with a similar story as Juliet from the book.

The millions of letters are taken in by the voluntary organization, The Juliet Club and they actually personally reply to most of the letters. While I was reading the book, I started becoming so intrigued by the letters that some people had written; they touched my heart, so I wanted to share them here with you.

Dear Juliet,

Who knows if you have ever written the word “Amore” on a blank sheet of paper, just look at it, without any particular reason? I have; those letters fill the page. I am in love!

There, I’ve said it all, but it’s not enough….

Each person will write to tell you of their feeling in a different way, because each of us is different. Yet if you look closely, you will see the same luminous, happy expression that unites all of those in love.

Gina R., Brescia, Italy

 

Dear Juliet,

I am in love with a black man. He is good, sweet and affectionate. My parents don’t want him in our house and will never consent to our marriage. Sometimes I go to his house, and we are like husband and wife. It is wonderful! Maybe we will run far away, where there is respect for feelings and for humanity. Juliet, do marvelous countries like that exist?

Massie R., Providence,

Rhode Island

I’ve asked myself many times, how it is that we fall in love: do we trip, lose our balance and fall, scraping our hearts? Do we crash to the ground on stones? Or is it like staying on the edge of a precipice for all time?

 Poland

 

Dear Juliet,

I am in a bunker. Outside I hear missiles exploding, bullets being fired. I am twenty-two years old and I’m scared. Our commander has told us that soon we must come out. A hand-to-hand battle awaits us. I feel I will die. I leave life with this brief note. I am entrusting it to you, symbol of universal love. I delude myself by thinking it will make people understand the futility of hate.

Brian L.,

Vietnam, 1972

Dear Juliet,

Once again a San Valentino without Valentino. I am no longer waiting for my knight in shining armor, and I am thoroughly discouraged. Most of my friends think I’m nuts because I still believe in fairytales and romantic stories. Sometime ago I began to think, and still do, that because I’m not very pretty no man would ever look at me with admiration. Since I work a lot and have strict parents, I rarely go out. I am twenty five and often dream, that one day , while serving a client, a stranger will walk through the door and take me away, and I will turn into a beautiful butterfly. I am looking for job in another field so I can become independent and not depend on my parents. If you can help me, I will be very grateful.

Affectionately,

Mirjam F., Glasgow,

Scotland

Ciao Giulietta,

If you introduce me to Leornado Di Caprio, I will love you too!

Things fall apart so that other things can fall together.

Now that I’m focused on myself and I’m finally putting down the work to reach the goals and dreams of my heart, I’ve realized how happy I am that things ended up the way they did between us (p).

Today I’m working on my CV and applying for a job that I want, a very exciting job for an International company in Sweden. I’m also working on the articles that I want to publish for the help organizations website.

It’s interesting that when you are with someone (dating) and the relationship isn’t good, you rather focus on making it work than actually letting it go. Blind sighted as you are, you keep pushing at it. Working at it and mostly on your behalf, making up adjustments and compromising to things you know you would never have done before. Worst of all is that these type of guys make you actually question yourself, ‘maybe this is what love and relationships are really like’? Maybe I was wrong?

Even after all that work, things still ended and when it ends you find yourself upset and with hopeless thoughts, like there wouldn’t be any other man out there and you just can’t seem to understand the reason for all that pain at that exact time.

 Today I am filled with happiness because I’m doing the things that I want and I realize that I would never have come to this point here and doing these things if I was still with him.  I would never been able to focus on myself and the things that I want for my life. So it makes sense to me now that things fall apart so that other things can fall together.